When Life Gives You Lemons....

So I come home Friday afternoon to pick up something before I go pick up my wonderful lil ones for the weekend and my Grandmother tells me to show Bubber the shower upstairs and my bed room because he is going to be staying there while he is here. My jaw drops and I stammer ok. There isn't really much that I can do. My heart is weighed down that me and my children are so easily displaced by a distant cousin of my aunts and uncles like that. I prepare my room for him and run through options in my head. The first thing that I think to do is not bring my kids this weekend and let them stay in the comfort of their own home not knowing what my plans were going to be. I called my uncle to ask if we could stay in his spare room (he has a humungous house) I did not get the answer that I would expect from family, and in the end got that it wasn't a good idea and try to find another place since my aunt wasn't feeling well. So I had stopped at work to talk to my aunt and was telling the situation to her and my boss and Jess (my boss) said "well why don't you guys just come and stay with us in our spare bedroom". At first I was like ...well.. no that would be awkward, to which she replied that that was quite ridiculous seeing that i stay over there playing magic to 2 or 4 in the morning, whats a few more hours. Sooo.. I thought about the options that I had and decided that I was going to take her up on her offer and turn this crappy turn of events into something adventurous. We ended up having an awesome weekend spending the night with them. Friday Trevor and Tessa ended up sleeping over at their grandparents home and so the kids went down semi early. Gerson and I stayed up and watched the leaked version of Wolverine together on his computer. It rocked and we were excited. Saturday night I babysitted for Jess and Gers so they could go out as a couple to a gathering. The kids had a blast together. Tessa and Tori put make up on each other and they all had a pillow fight. We stayed up till 10:30 watching Speed Racer on tv. Everyone was perfect. Jess and Gers were home before 11 ^.^ I told them they were losers for getting home so early when they had a babysitter to take advantage of ^.^ . We had fun conversations and then Gers and I played magic when Jess headed to bed. Besides that, work was wonderfully hectic with an unthought of turn out for our sale we threw together. Saturday ended up being ubber busy and we were not really prepared for it staff wise ^.^ . I had a great weekend. I am thankful I was able to get my fear of being displaced under wrap right away and was able to take advantage of what was offered to me. I was offered by Jess and Gers to stay with them if I need to as well as Lindsay (Jess's sister). I assured them it was just for this weekend until i can get another room upstairs situated for Bubber to sleep in. However, I am very well thinking of taking up Lindsay on her offer. She has a big house all to herself and she is a wonderful person and we get along fantastic. It would be nice living in a place where I would be appreciated. However, I am just toying with the thought right now. Anyways, I am off to get some recuperating rest now. Curious to know what you all think I should do.

Why I Love My Job.

Man there are lots of reasons I love my job, but the biggest one is that I am able to connect to people. Saturday I was really really tired. I had very little sleep the last two nights for one reason or another and it was showing through at work. I was grumpy and a bit biting with my co-workers... well.. I was not as tolerant to their lackadaisical usual selves. Anyways by the afternoon i was drained. I walked up to a customer and asked her if everything was alright and if she needed help. I must have been so tired that my facial features looked like extreme concern and she got scared and said no she was fine but was looking like that maybe there was a reason she shouldn't be and asked if something was wrong. I chuckled and apologized and explained nothing was wrong that I was just tired and my question came out wrong because of that. We talked for a good bit while her children played in the store. After a bit I had to ring up and then was working on a display when she came up to me before she was left and told me that she wanted to thank me before I she left. She is a mother of two and a teacher and it was nice having a conversation with an adult like she did with me because she can't remember when the last time she had one was. She wanted to let me know how it made her feel and how much she appreciated it. That's what I live for. Touching peoples lives like that. It's not even with work. I try and strive as much as possible to have a positive effect in as many lives as I can touch. Today another customer came in. I actually have met her once before through an acquaintance. She was setting up a birthday registry for her sun and I was talking to her and explaining things. She was going around picking up things and asked a question about something and we ended up talking more and I got around to asking her how she was doing lately. She sighed and said "you know what, not so well" She went on to tell me somethings that were turning her life upside down. I felt very bad and did the only thing that i could do... offer her a hug. I gave her a big hug and she thanked me and said how she really needed that. I have been frustrated a lil bit at work with a lot of lack of sight with the coming future, but touching lives like that just makes everything ok. Sometimes I forget that there is a purpose for me, I may not understand why I am where I am, but I am sure who ever is in charge out there does. *huggles to everybuddy*

Fat Tuesday!

Yesterday I was going to impose a self induced mandatory lock in. I have noticed since John had left that I had purposely been keeping myself out. It was about time for me to turn and face the aloneliness (my own word). Then I found out that today was Fat Tuesday and well .... i just couldn't NOT go out and join the fun. So I asked around to see who wanted to go and no one was up for it. I was going to go out alone and I decided to text an old friend of mine. Ariel and I use to be really close when we were in high school. We were a close bunch of guys during that time. So i texted him and asked him if he wanted to come check out the downtown tonight. I had come once before ... for like an hour. He hadn't been down here at all. I wasn't even sure what would be going on but I took a chance ... heck its Fat Tuesday... SOMETHING has to be going on. I bought a blinking beaded necklace from work and picked up one more from the house and then headed out. We had a blast! I wanted to check out a place that a coworker said she liked called Speak Easy but it was closed! So we walked down to a place called The Dive. It freaking rocked! It was definitely my kinda place. They played lots of 90's 80's and 70's rock. You know the place is special when they have TWINKIES on the menu! After a while there we went next door to a place called Rhythm and Brews. It was nice. a little more upscale from the blue jeans and t shirt place of The Dive. Guys were dressed up in nicer shirts, and girls wore short black dresses. The place was a lil nicer. I like to think the waitress thought I was cute because she gave me my Dr. Pepper's for free while she charged Ariel for his beers. The last two of the four had cherries in them. I probably got them for free though because she probably thought I was a designated driver. Now my blinking bead necklace had been coveted all night with three girls asking where i got it from . One told me she worked at moon beams and told me to visit her during the day sometime and squeezed my bicep...I'm pretty sure she was dissappointed. Anyways, at Rhythm and Brews one girl came up to me and asked me if she could borrow my necklace because her friends told her there was no way that she could get it from me and that she would give it back when she leaves. She was the only one to ask me if she could have it and i was going to get it back so i said yes. Anyways Ariel and I left first and so I went to go get it back. She told me she would give it to me out side. I suppose she wanted to save face in front of her friends. She gave it back to me and she like everyone else asked where i got it from. And the she asked if she could have it. Me being a nice guy of course said yes. I got a big hug for it. ^.^ . Of the evening I started of with two strings of beads and ended up with five even after giving one away. The last place we stopped out was an old old movie theater called El Cine Rey. They had a blues and fusion band playing in the lobby of the theater with lots of couches inside and out. It was smaller crowd and more intimate. I liked it. It had red lights and red velvet couches. My favorite place was still The Dive though. This saturday they are going to have some Industrial bands play. I want to check that out. It's going to be a saturday where I won't have the kids so that should work out nicely. Plus there is another place called Lounge M that is going to have a punk band from Portland, Oregon play. That is in March. I had a wonderful night and I am glad I went out. I loved catching up with Ariel. I hope we can make this our thing.

Strike!

We have restarted game night at work again. Game night was something we started doing at work to help go out and unwind and get closer together as co-workers. Last night we headed out to Flamingo Bowl for some bowling. I had a blast! Before I had left I had loosened up my muscles with a tall mug of rum and coke. I was the first to get there so I got a lane for us. It was quarter game night and we were in lane six. We had so much fun. There was a couple next to us there was a couple in lane seven that were dopplegangers of me and shar.... except ten years younger ... and 40lbs lighter >.< .... which ten years ago... we probably were too hehe. I was begging for someone to take a picture so that I could show shar but everyone was to embarassed because the couple was very lovey and would kiss alot... it was cute ... watching them have fun bowling and then drown everything out to be in there own world for a kiss. Anyways ... it just makes me realize I should buy an I phone already. SOOOO.... I did ok the first game....I scored a 77... but it wasn't until Eddie got there and bought a piture of beer that things got intresting. Now... I don't drink beer. I just don't like it... but last night i had three cups. It just reinforced my belief that drinking a FEW drinks while bowling helps loosens you up so you can bowl better. I got a 98 on my second game and on the third game I got a 138 my best score EVER bowling. It's funny because on nights like that ... I imagine how much better they are going to be when Shar is there too. ^.^ ....

P.S. Bowling Shoes Rock!

Vibe in Mcallen Downtown!?

Ok.... when did my little city get a downtown night life!? I went out friday night to seventeenth st down town. And there was a vibe! Holy Schmoly! I didn't get to enjoy it that long but that part of the story doesn't belong in here. I did love the live music coming out of the bars and clubs. I felt the energy of the people walking on the side walks. I felt safe and protected from the police officers on bikes. The plan was to hop from place to place checking it all out but i only got to enjoy the first stop. It was called the Patio. A very nice upscale place with a nice salsa band playing in a courtyard and a swanky sexy lounge singer playing on a piano inside. I had the best blow job ever! I even got a picture of it! I will share it later on. Anyways... I really can't wait to go back and check the rest of the strip out. I will be having a me weekend this next weekend and that will be my chance to check it out. I don't think they have the dance atmosphere I am looking for but I won't know until I go check it out.

It's my birthday!

Well... another year older. ^.^ I absolutely thought I was going to pass this birthday quietly. I had seen it in my head as just another day. I am not sure that is going to be the case. I have already had lots of friends wish me happy birthday... and it hadn't even started yet. ^.^ I definitely felt the love. Shar called and sang happy birthday to me at mid night. It meant the world to me....more than she knows. I had also actually gotten a wonderful birthday wish from Angie, Tori's and Johnny's mom. It felt good to hear that from her too. What surprised me most was the wishes from people that I would have not expected and from the ones that I hadn't talked to in a long while. My gift from Elli in Gaia was very much a wonderful surprise as well. My original intentions today was going to spend it playing magic with the guys, but now that I have Jon here , well it's the best gift a father could ask for. Mom is going take me out for Chinese when I get out of work. I am very much looking forward to that. :P As for gifts....I got an early one from Angie... well... she wanted to buy me something at the mall on friday but i didn't see anything... instead I told her I wanted magic cards and she gave me the money for that. ^.^ yayness!

An entire week with my son!

My world is brighter! I haven't felt this.... alive ... since I was with Shar and Gabe. This weekend was an unusual weekend for the kids and me. Angie was supposed to come pick them up sunday. Long story short, she didn't end up coming for them. I told her that it would be fine for tori to miss a day of school and Jon isn't in day care anymore. Monday was my day off so I got to spend some wonderful time with just me and them. Angie come late monday afternoon and we went to get some paperwork done and then out to eat. When we were finishing up Jon said that he wanted to stay with me. Of course he can stay with me. Angie didn't think he would do it though. We had to run and pick up some brake lights for her truck and while we were doing that I quickly made some calls and made some arrangements for Jon to be taken care of while I was at work. When the time came Angie tried pulling her crocodile tears and use a guilt trip on Jon to make him go back with her but it absolutely had no effect on him. Poor Tori though... it did work on her and she told me that mommy would be sad if johnny stayed. I paid no attention to angie whatsoever and told her that I would be happy at least. She called again late last night but I didn't let her pouting get me down even the slightest. So it's going to be a boys week. I am extremely happy again. I was thinking about it last night.... there are only a handful of people in this world that can make me feel like this. I'm glad. ^.^